As I originally described, I took a guess at some of the meaning and attempted to offer some advise and solutions based on that guess. If I missed, apologies. There were multiple aspects and I remain uncertain as to what some of it meant.
I feel like any further comment on the OP's posts without further information or explanation from the OP would seem like just "piling on" and I have no intention of doing that. I really just wanted to help, even when cracking a bit of humor. No offense ever intended to the OP. It just indicated a lack of understanding on my part.
And I think what sjoens meant was that he begins with his interface monitoring output volume turned down, opens/sets up a session then brings up that monitor output control to his common (calibrated/standard?) level.
If so, give that (man?) a prize cigar!